I have one of the best looking lawns in my neighborhood. I cut it whenever is most convenient for me. That might be any time between 9AM and 7PM. I cut it no matter the outside temperature. The only thing I avoid doing is cutting it while wet.
The is exactly the advice that one of my favorite podcasts, Manager Tools, would prescribe. Don't give feedback about emotions or internal feelings, give feedback about behaviors. Telling someone they are acting like an asshole can be met with, "but, no, I'm not acting like an asshole." Telling someone, "When you cut off people mid sentence and speak loudly, you will have people complain about you." gives them actionable ways to change their external behavior in the future. It doesn't matter if they are still an asshole on the inside.
Do these places ever discuss receiving feedback? Genuinely actioning feedback like this requires an extremely high level of trust, and expecting that level of trust in a short time window is borderline predatory.
For example, I would never provide critical feedback within the first 6 months (minimum) of a new hire starting (similar window I apply to providing feedback on codebase issues etc).
Sorry for the late reply. The Manager Tools podcast definitely talks about both sides of feedback. Everything they teach is predicated on building strong relationships, through weekly 1x1s, and starting off with positive feedback only after multiple months of conducting 1x1s.
After reading your comment, one might come to the conclusion that Europeans see Americans through the lens of reporting and social media, just as Americans see Europeans through the same lens. Both sides believe characterizations of the other.
> one might come to the conclusion that Europeans see Americans through the lens of reporting and social media
Heck, Americans see Americans through the lens of reporting and social media.
Look at the incredibly polarized climate. Why is it a novelty to just bring together people of "opposite sides" to talk? When political "debate" is just a grounds to get your sound bites out to the media, democracy is in danger. And not just from the current administration.
The conclusion is correct, I would say. I know plenty of Americans who are not the archetype I portrayed, but this is HN, and that’s the HN American I see here a lot. Not all, but a lot. And we seem to be fundamentally incompatible. It’s really unfortunate, but that’s what it seems to me, and I’m sorry for the bitter undertones, it’s just really hard to stay optimistic in the current social climate.
As someone trying to piece together family history, after most of my family has died, I really appreciate this. Any and all efforts to make records available helps with clues. Building an accurate family history is a process of "one more document". This effort is definitely helpful to me. I've already utilized your service to submit a request for my grandfather's records. I'll be spending time searching for other relatives as well. Thanks!
USA Today's reporting is wrong. There are not 971 cases of school shootings. There are about that many "school incidents". Some of those incidents, like the one listed below, are where police responded to a report of someone with a gun and never found the person or gun.
Yes I have. An altercation between two people in a parking lot is different than a school shooting.
Have you looked at the other items listed where there are victims? Multiple times I see that it was an altercation in a dorm room of a college. Sorry, I would consider that an altercation in a residence, not a school shooting. Here's another one that a kid shot himself in the leg and it's counted as a school shooting.
Ah. I now understand why school shooting numbers that people are quoting are so very high as of late.
Shit like Columbine is a school shooting. Shit like that is a shooting that happened to happen at school. If the assailant had used a knife, would you be calling it a "school stabbing"? If you would, then I disagree with that characterization, too.
For lots of folks, the term "school shooting" is strongly associated with the notion that a massacre happened... and not at all with the notion that some folks got into a heated argument, and one of them decided to attack the other with a weapon.
Based on this: <https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=42552320> many things classified as "school shooting" are not what any reasonable person would think of when they hear the term.
A kid shooting HIMSELF in the leg? Yes, it meets an extremely literal definition, but it would be incredibly stupid to -say- lock down a campus because of that.
I am similarly irritated by loud vehicles and wonder why they are allowed to persist. Would this be better enforced if it didn't rely 100% on officer testimony? I wonder if there is a market for a "sound camera" that could be marketed to police departments. The idea would be that you point this thing at cars, like their radar gun, and it captures video, sound, and the # of decibels. Only thing I don't know is if there is a way to attribute particular sounds to particular objects found in the video. This would, potentially, give them the hard evidence to ticket these cases. If there is an easy way to make money off these, the police would be sure to enforce it.
